This is it! Soon! It’s gonna happen!
I feel like I’ve done pretty much everything to try to potty train SuperGirl (now 3). We began in January with the potty training, because she was finally to the point where we felt her communication skills were good enough, and she was interested in the potty, and we were, well…just optimistic, I guess. And it went so well! …For a little while. SuperGirl was going potty ON the potty, she was getting to wear her cool new underwear, she was telling us when she needed to go before she actually went… And then it just all stopped. I don’t know what triggered it, but something happened to where she absolutely refused to go anywhere near the potty.
Things we did to get to the first (happy) stage:
1) We read a potty book.
2) We were there for potty support (i.e. going to the bathroom at the same time. What? Other moms don’t do this?).
3) We did the potty dance (which consists of shaking your booty as you turn in a circle and saying “Yay, SuperGirl went potty!”).
4) We gave her a sticker (she LOVES stickers) every time she went potty so she could put it on her potty chart.
5) We were immensely enthusiastic with our praise whenever she went potty (Olympic gold medal winners receive less praise, I’m sure) and tried to be encouraging when she, erm, didn’t make it to the potty on time.
6) We went and sat at the potty at regular intervals, so even if she didn’t have to go, she would still have the routine and the reminder.
We did all of that–and it worked! We were so thrilled. (“I don’t know what so-and-so were talking about, this is much easier than I thought it would be. Aren’t we lucky that our kid did this faster than theirs? I would never resort to bribing my kid with toys (because stickers don’t count as bribes, right?) and our kid is just super smart and awesome and talented for going potty.”) As fellow PBK mom Maisey would say, HAHAHAHAHA. Yeah, the joke’s on us.
When she regressed, nothing worked. Next we tried courting her with the potty and the “subtle” reminders whenever we changed her diaper. “Do we go poopoo or peepee in our diaper? Noooooo, we go poopoo and peepee in the potty.” (She always has the right answer!)
The last tip I’ve heard recently is to tell your toddler “your peepee and poopoo want to make friends with the potty and won’t you help them get there”? (An aside: Truly, did you EVER think we would talk this way when we became parents?) I admit I keep forgetting to try this one, but I have no problem at all saying it if it means she’ll start going potty again.
I should mention that WonderGirl is also very interested in the potty now with all the talking we’ve been doing and so while we’ve been focusing on SuperGirl, WonderGirl (now 19 months) is getting the benefit of our attempted potty training techniques, too.
Which brings me, at last, to the second part of the title for this blog post today: Do or Die. That’s right, folks, it’s about to get all kinds of extreme in the Rome household. Combining the knowledge that SuperGirl was *so close* to being potty trained before and definitely knows what to do, the obvious understanding they both have of the potty and the interest in the potty routine (I’ve never seen someone get so excited about flushing), and the ridiculousness (and expense!! and yes, I know cloth diapering is less expensive; another of my mommy failures, I suppose) of having two toddlers in diapers with one wearing a size 5 and the other wearing a size 4, we’ve decided to pick a date when, from now on, SuperGirl and WonderGirl will be…wait for it… DIAPER FREE!!!
Yes, except for car rides (for now) and bedtime, they will no longer be allowed to wear diapers. I read about this extreme path to potty training on BabyCenter one time, and several people swore that it worked, but I never thought we’d need to do it. I admit, I’m a little terrified. A little daunted by the thought of my furniture starting to smell like pee and all of my towels used to mop up pee (I don’t even want to think about the poop), but if this really works…and it has to work, right?…then I can think of no greater improvement in our parenting quality of life right now than having both girls potty trained. I can just imagine myself when that day finally comes…
And so we will move forward, with that end in mind. The date we’ve chosen is July 5th. I suppose it’s apt, since the day before is Independence Day. July 5th will be our Diaper Independence Day. =)
Have you had the joy of potty training your child yet? Are you currently working on it? If you have kids and adult kids who are potty trained, congratulations–I’m in awe of you. =) And, um, any tips you care to share?
I’m Elise Rome, AKA Midnight Mama because I’m usually burning the midnight oil. If SuperGirl (3, with a speech delay) and WonderGirl (1, my very own hip attachment) aren’t getting up in the middle of the night, then I’m busy working on writing and writing-related business until morning…usually 5 am or so. Both my husband and I stay home with the girls (he’s a writer, too! www.lukasholmes.com), but usually I’m focused on them throughout the day and only get started working until after 8pm when they’re both in bed. I’m a former Texan now living in Colorado who desperately misses no-snow winters, and my parenting goal is to raise my daughters to be strong, intelligent, and independent women…much like the heroines I write, as a matter of fact. I’m a recovering perfectionist, recovering procrastinator, and perpetually aspire to keep the house clean (because it never actually is). When I’m not chasing around my daughters or adoring my cooking/cleaning/diaper-changing husband of 8 years, I write historical romances about women who fascinate me and men who somehow always remind me of Rhett Butler, the first literary hero who captured my heart. www.eliserome.com